Thanks, Mahala, for making such a valid point. In my first novel, which I am wphosrokping into final draft this summer in Taos, I explored the idea of infidelity in a marriage. This was extremely difficult to write, but it allowed me to look at the idea in new ways, to experience the pain that my characters felt (which was different from how I personally had perceived it) and to move through the pain and to a newer, more loving-kindness focused understanding of all of the intricacies of a relationship instead of making broad assumptions. Writing this helped me heal, and also opened me up in ways that I never expected. Thanks for your insights CathyCathy s last blog ..